This is our soft life manifesto. In this episode, we talk about how we’ve glamorized chaos in relationships, and how we’re now choosing peace. We unpack the cultural obsession with “ride or die” dynamics, the fear of setting boundaries, and how loving someone shouldn’t mean losing yourself. We also explore how struggle love has become normalized in both straight and queer relationships, and how choosing a soft, mutual, gentle love can feel revolutionary — and scary. We’re saying a hard NO to romanticizing struggle. We unpack how many of us were conditioned to believe that love has to hurt, and how deeply that belief has shaped our expectations and choices in relationships. This episode is for every woman who has loved at the expense of herself — and is now choosing peace, clarity, and softness. We also get real about how hard it is to reprogram yourself after years of normalizing chaos. But we’re choosing the soft life — not because it’s trendy, but because we deserve it. For the interactive Drunk Dialing segment, we open up our vintage phone line and listen to voicenotes from listeners sharing their own struggle love stories, wild boundaries crossed, and soft life wake-up calls.